“Two Weeks! Give them a break!”
“I have a new dog!”
” I found/adopted a dog!”
“I introduced her to 15 people” … ” he was a bit leery but seems to like my other 3 dogs”
“she went everywhere with me ” …
All in the first few days of the new home …. (!!!)
In about two weeks later we get the call back to the rescue;
“I think we will have to rehome the new dog” “the new dog barked and nipped at my kid”
“We had a dog fight” “what do we do?”
Ok, folks, here it comes, the big secret to many foster homes success with a new dog that came from unknown or even not so good homes! Doggy shut down! Giving the new dog, post finding, adoption, buying, etc, time to adjust to you and your family and the dogs in the new environment.
Why the Two Week Shut Down?
The Two Week Shut Down is a time familiar to a dog’s mind, as it mimics the whelping box when first born, as the puppy’s eyes are not open, and it relies totally on the mother’s ability to take care of it. By smelling, sensing, listening to the puppy starts his journey into the new scary world.
New adult dogs come into our home the same way, “a journey into a new and scary world”
By giving the dog a “time out” the dog can learn its new world, its new people and begin to relax and blossom under the care of the new caregiver.
Why we all want to run out with our new dog, show everyone our new pet, we forget that even an adult dog is now back to a puppy newborn like mind, all is new, the voices speak a new language, cars might be new, leashes and handling under nice people might be new.
Even petting and acceptance of a pet is stressful on a new dog, “Who are you? Where did we come from? Where are we going? What is expected of me? “-the dog thinks! Just like a newborn baby we wouldn’t rush out and pass the baby from person to person, we set up a stable and safe environment, our new dogs are just like that, our newborn baby. We also give the rescue dog a bit of time to heal, mentally and physically.
Step back for a minute and think how you might feel if you were never going to go back to your “home” and that you were expected to live with new people who didn’t understand your language.
What if these new people took you to all sorts of different places expecting you to greet everyone happily, and feel comfortable with an overload of attention all at one time? How might you feel after all of that, to have to go to your new “home” and interact with a bunch of strangers?
It’s very likely that you’d feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and ready to retreat but really have no place to go to. You might begin to act out and yell at people for coddling you and insisting that you do this and do that.
Well, many dogs are put in the very same position and the only way they know how to get their point across is to act out or “misbehave.” The dog may act out by nipping at children for he didn’t understand them and was corrected harshly before knowing how he was to be around them!
Growling when being moved off furniture -” he didn’t know he couldn’t be here. What is expected?
Where am I allowed?” Starting fights with the other animals in the home -that dog here was giving me the evil eye my new humans are not leaders, I must defend myself!”
How to: TWO WEEKS – “shut down”
For the first two weeks, (sometimes even longer depending on the dog) a dog takes in the new environment, who is the top persons, dogs, who ARE these people! By pushing a dog too fast and throwing too much at the dog we look like we are not the leaders and the dog can feel it MUST defend itself, as the leader is surely no one he has met so far. We coo, coddle, drag the dog to home to home to person to person, and the dog has NO idea who we are. A great way of thinking of this time is a line I stole from a friend; “this is the dating period NOT the honeymoon”
When you first met your “mate”, you were on your best behavior, you were not relaxed enough to be all of yourself, were you? Just think of the things you do physically once you get to KNOW a person, you wouldn’t run up to a stranger and hug them and squeeze them! Imagine, if on the first date, this new person, was all over you touching you and having their friends hug you and pat you on top of the head, and jostle your shoulders, then he whisked you off to another stranger’s home and they did the same thing. Would you think this person normal and SAFE? Would you feel invaded and defensive and begin to get a bit snarky yourself? Wouldn’t you think to push these people away for obviously your date is out of their mind and they aren’t going to save you from these weirdos!! Yet we do this to our dogs, and then get upset or worried that they aren’t relaxed and accepting of EVERYTHING instantly!
*Why do we expect a dog to accept a situation when we ourselves could not?
By shutting down the dog, it gives the dog TIME to see you, meet YOU, hear and take in the new sounds and smells of your home. * Crate the dog in a room by itself if possible.
(Believe me, dogs are sensory animals, they know more than you think without seeing it).
* Leash: This also teaches the new safe zone for the dog is around you and the humans in the home. Leash the dog right to your belt or under a piece of furniture. And this also stops the dog from reacting if you have to get him off of something like the couch, you are not reaching in and grabbing onto him, just tug gently on the leash, say “come on” and there you go. no conflict!
* No obedience like training at all, just fun exercise and maybe throw some toys for fun, leash the dog if you don’t have a fence outside use lunge lines if you have too big a yard. But I DO NOT leave my yard, AT ALL. No car rides, no other dogs, (unless crated beside them), no pet stores, no WALKS even, nothing but me, my home, my yard. (Unless of course, the dog needs to go to the veterinarian)
* Don’t go crazy petting and handling the dog! Even petting and being “out” in the home puts pressure on a dog, as everything is so new. Allowing the dog time to absorb and the decision to come to YOU for pets and affection can do a lot in taking the pressure off a new dog.
* Exercise – but in your yard! All dogs need to burn off energy. Do fun toss the ball games in your yard or on a lunge line if no fence. Remember to just have fun, let the dog run and explore.
* Again- no walks yet! Walks are stressful for there is so much coming at you. Being a new person to this dog you have no clue how the dog is reacting to the walking environment. The dog may react to something and we start correcting it with the leash and we just installed a VERY
STRESSFUL moment to the dog in what should be a fun and happy walk.
TEACH the dog by doing the shutdown, that YOU are the one to look to, that you are here for the dog! He can trust in you and look to you as its new family!! Then on walks you will see the dog look to you when he sees something like a kid or a dog to see what your reaction is, lessening his mind about having to defend or control the environment, he has YOU, the dog now can relax and enjoy the walk more.
*In the house I have the dog out only for about 20-40 minutes post exercise/yard times. And ALWAYS on a leash. Then PUT THE DOG AWAY. Let it absorb and think. Even if just for a little bit. If the dog goes to his crate on his own, he is telling you “I need a time out” allow him this time.
By having the dog out for long periods of time we are forcing the dog to keep accepting all new things, by putting the dog away we are asking him to accept a few things, then go think and absorb, when we get him out later we introduce a few more things, so the three new things are three new things, not 3 x 3 x 3 – possible shut down from the dog.
*No new buddies! Do not introduce the dogs for these two weeks, they can be side by side in the crates if you cannot totally separate, (not nose to nose for they can feel defensive). Some dogs will bond instantly with the other dogs if we don’t bond FIRST with the dog, and this can lead to some other issues, as the dog will look to the other dog(s) for guidance and not YOU!
*Ignore Bad behavior – Ignore crying and/or barking. If you run to the dog each time they bark, whine, or cry, you are teaching the dog that doing those things gets your attention. The dog must learn to be secure when you are not there. Use the leash to correct jumping, exploring counters, etc.
*Praise Gently Good behavior – example, “Dog is sitting nicely next to you, touch or softly pet the dog “good boy/girl” let them know you appreciate GOOD behavior. This makes naughty behavior not so fun if you ignore THAT but praise the good!
Literally, in two weeks you will see a change in the dog and begin to see its honest and true personality. Just like a house guest. They are well behaved and literally shut down themselves these first few weeks, then post this time, they relax, and the true personality begins to shine thru!
So, please, if nothing else for your new dog, give it the time to LEARN YOU as you are learning who they are! This method works on shy dogs, confident dogs, abuse cases, chained dogs that come in, rowdy dogs, all temperaments! It isn’t just the big 01bully smiles, it’s the expression, the way they start to LOOK at me, for guidance, I gained their trust and showed them, calmly and fairly what this new world is like, they literally relax and feel safe. There is no need to force that-we are the leaders, slow easy guidance, patience, showing them what we DO want them to do in a new home instead of correcting them when they do wrong. We install that we are worthy to the dog to be its family!
So please for the sake of your new dog, slow down … way down …. Give them a chance to show you who they can really be!